15 Signs You’re Mentally Strong

Why should you bother to look for these signs that you’re mentally strong? Because resilience is the primary difference between those who make it in life and those who don’t!

 

Life has its ups and downs; it’s just how it goes. Those who are able to pursue their goals despite an overwhelming amount of pushback will earn their future. 

Nobody hands it to them.

By the end of this article, you’ll have a full checklist to see if you’ve got it or not. Here are 15 Signs You’re Mentally Strong

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1

You understand that things don’t happen for a reason; they just happen

You have to deal with and make something of the puzzle pieces you’ve been given.

Life isn’t fair, and most people don’t realize that it’s a blessing.

Imagine the horror of knowing that every bad thing that happened to you happened because you deserved it. Mentally strong people Take responsibility for their own lives and their own state of being. 

If you’re feeling like shit, if you’re miserable, if you’re unhealthy, if you’re unsuccessful, or if you’re dumb, it is your responsibility to put an end to it.

Most people make the following mistake, and this will forever change the way they look at things:

People think reality is flexible and their potential is fixed! 

In reality, it’s the other way around: Actually, reality is fixed, and your role in it is flexible.

Now that you understand the world will keep spinning even without you, maybe it’s time to make the decision and be flexible with how you’re going to make your life matter.

2

You are able to self-motivate and take action even if you feel like you don’t want to

Motivation is an extraordinary thing. 

When it hits you, drain it fully and put it to good use. 

The higher your purpose, the more you realize that doing it only when motivated will not get you very far, so you need to figure out a way to push even when you don’t feel like pushing.

 

Amateurs do it in the sunshine!

Professionals do it in the rain!

It’s the off-season that makes the difference. 

We’ve known a secret nobody else knew, and it guided how we worked: 

You build wealth and make progress on SUNDAYS! 

Work while everybody else is chilling and it won’t take long until you separate yourself from the crown.

You don’t even have to be special to win through discipline.

Hard work and discipline beat talent when talent isn’t working hard enough!

Mentally strong people aren’t slaves to what the mind thinks is easy, sweet, or comfortable in the moment. 

And that’s how one takes control over their own life.

3

You are able to analyze your performance and make adjustments through brutal honesty

The only sign of intelligence is changed behavior that leads to better outcomes!

A person is considered intelligent when they’re able to understand their own behavior and make adjustments to increase their likelihood of success. 

If you’ve been doing the same thing for 10 years and it’s still not working, you might not be as smart as you think you are. We’re just being honest with you here.

The only way to evolve as a person is to look at your past performance and see what you did well and where you sucked. 

This is why all professional teams or fighters rewatch their games; they study themselves to see where they could’ve been better. 

Small, incremental improvements lead to extraordinary results over long periods of time!

You don’t have to do it publicly. Do it when you’re alone. 

• Look at what you’ve managed to accomplish this year. 
• Look at what you could’ve done better. 
• Look at your relationships, look at your health, look at your bank account, and look internally at how you feel.

Be brutally honest with yourself!

Start making changes and see what happens. Change is the sign you’re truly mentally strong.

4

You don’t envy others

You envy others because you think you deserve what they have more than they do, but that’s not true. Deep down, you know that it’s not true, and it’s eating at you. 

Which is why envy tastes so bitter. 

We envy in others what we miss in ourselves!

Envy is the final toxic form of desire, which means at some point it was just a guiding light towards your destination, but you took it the wrong way and became a hater.

Haters are just dreamers who gave up on their dreams!

Mentally strong people do not envy others. They’re good with themselves. 

Whenever they see someone who has more or something they want, they take it as motivation. 

Envy is the result of a limited mindset and zero-sum games, where if someone else has something that you want, it means that you’re not getting it.

Mentally strong people know that they can become and get anything that they put their efforts into. Anything, but NOT EVERYTHING. 

This is an incredible distinction you learn when you begin to level up.

Envy is found only in people who don’t believe in themselves enough to get what they want!

What results in envy for these people, for mentally strong people, turns into motivation. 

“If they did it, I can do it as well, but better suited to my situation!”

A lack of envy is a powerful sign that you’re mentally strong.

5

You are not above asking for help, mentorship, and guidance

Mental strength comes from the ability to be self-aware of your reality. 

It means keeping your ego in check.

Most people sacrifice a peaceful life because of pride and ego. Fathers and sons waste decades because of words. Relationships get broken. 

Some people take pride in misery and even wear it as a badge of honor. When objectively they could’ve been better off if they only put their pride aside and asked for help.

Remember this if you’re too proud to ask: You can always return the favor when you’re in a position to help!

But from where you are right now, You can’t help anyone. Not even yourself!

Mentally strong people value expertise above everything else because it saves them time and pain. 

If others can minimize the pain you will endure, do it, and use the difference wisely. 

Rich people do it all the time. They pay ridiculous amounts of money to experts just so they can get there quicker. 

Anyone who’s had a great therapist can tell you just how powerful the experience can be. 

Now take that model and get yourself a “therapist” for all parts of your life. 

Someone to help you be healthy, someone to help you get rich, others to mend your relationships, one to help you find peace, and a handful of teachers to make you smarter… how amazing would that be? 

How much would this team of people cost, and what kind of impact would they have on your life?

You no longer have to wonder. We built that team for you.

We pay hundreds of thousands of dollars to these experts on your behalf and have them distill their most valuable and actionable findings in 10-minute sessions. 

These are not book summaries or theoretical ideas, these are lessons learned through decades of trial and error, large-scale academic studies, or by working with hundreds of Fortune 500 executives. 

Get yourself a yearly subscription because it’s cheaper at only $99, and watch how your life gets incrementally better. 

44% of the Alux app users have already hit their biggest goal in life!

With the rest closing in fast. Most people live a cheap life because they think investing in themselves is expensive. Stop wasting any more time and download the Alux app!

6

You say what you’re going to do, and then do what you said you’d do

Be careful, for the first part is what separates the greats from everyone else.

It’s not the achievement that’s the extraordinary part; some people can get lucky, or circumstances might lead them down a certain path.

It is the announcement of intent and then the execution that show the world you are able to bend your future based on what you desire.

There’s a photo from 2014 on our founder’s Instagram page with a $1 bill and six added zeros that marked the beginning of the journey to the first million dollars on a cheap Toshiba laptop.

 He crushed it just a few years later.

 

He still carries the bill in his wallet as a reminder. Also, notice how the post only got 15 likes, one of them from his wife. 

At the stage where you announce things, nobody believes you’ll actually do them. 

Trust a vision only you can see, say it publicly, and then execute it until you achieve it is a true sign that you’re mentally strong.

7

You are able to change your position based on new information

Mentally strong individuals maintain a level of curiosity in the pursuit of truth. 

Unlike what modern culture is telling you, there’s no such thing as your truth and my truth. 

There’s only one. Objective truth; everything else is just perception—your personal lived experience. 

Most people confuse perception – what they think they see – with what really is. 

They often reference this image:

 

But the number on the floor was put there by someone with a purpose. 

If you take a step back, you’ll realize that there might be a 5 or a 7 near it, which renders one’s perspective useless.

At that point, you have a choice to make:

1. Admit you were wrong and simply didn’t have a full view of the facts and move on to being wiser or
2. Stick to your initial position and scream louder, hoping it will make you feel better about yourself. 

Mediocre people think in terms of winning and losing, while mentally strong individuals focus on progress and growth.

8

You are able to keep yourself focused and not derailed by distractions

Mental strength is about controlling what happens inside your head. 

It means paying attention to this article without checking your phone or doing something on the side.

You fail to make any real progress because you jump from one thing to another. 

The plan isn’t the problem. Most plans actually work if you stick to them long enough.

 

This is why some of you watching this have six businesses and are still broke. 

Stop chasing shiny objects and pick one. Any of them will get you there if you just commit to it for 10 years. 

But you don’t do that because you’re trying to get there in 6 months, and you fail, so you try another shortcut, and that fails. 

What you lack is the mental fortitude to commit until it inevitably pays off.

9

You don’t complain about the situation; you get the job done.

There are two kinds of people:

1. Victims and 
2. Problem solvers

Variables change all the time, so you have to have the brains to change accordingly if you want to thrive.

If there’s one skill that’s above everything else in life, it’s the skill of “figuring sh*t out”. Owning this skill is a true sign that you’re mentally strong.

There’s always a solution to the problem; you just need to be more creative in your approach.

We’ve been through hundreds of deals where the other party said it was possible, and we still managed to make it work. 

Be careful of the people you have on your team. You want them to bring you solutions, not problems.

Be wary of the managers who say things like “It can’t be done” “It won’t work” or “There’s no point in trying.”

Instead, promote and reward those who are able to problem solve on the spot. Those who see an alternative that benefits the organization, and make it a reality.

The best people don’t ask: How can I help? They just help!

10

You are stubborn about your goals but flexible about the methods

Your goals don’t change, but how you get there might depend on what you learn along the way. 

As you progress in life, you pick up different skills and different insights. 

Like a river going downstream, you can take the path of least resistance. 

The journey is going to be long anyway, so don’t make it harder than it has to be. 

Sometimes, the lifestyle you’re looking for might not be available in your location. So you’ll have to move.

Other times, the job you’re at might not be the right fit, so either switch jobs or switch careers altogether.

Most people lack the ability to reinvent themselves. But once you have figured out your long-term goal, you need to be flexible and change into the person most likely to be deserving of that outcome.

The truth is that you don’t have it because you’re not yet worthy of that life. But it doesn’t have to be that way.

Last year, we began working on a flagship course that’s in post-production right now. It’s called REINVENT MASTERY, and it will be available at alux.com/reinvent 

It will feature a step-by-step guide to a complete redesign of your life in six months. 

From your identity to moving to another country, making friends there, getting a fulfilling job, or starting out on your own, to setting yourself up for a life you actually enjoy. 

We only launch 1 course per year because we take it seriously, and Reinvent Mastery is a true game changer. 

It will come with a premium price point, but if you go to alux.com/reinvent and put your email on the waiting list, we’ll make sure you’ll get a massive discount when we launch, available exclusively to the people there. 

Some of you want a complete re-do of your lives, while others just need to make a couple of small tweaks to go from burnout to enjoyment. 

We built this one for you, so make sure you don’t miss it when we launch.

11

Other people don’t control your emotions

Pay attention to the people who make you feel things, be they joyful or negative. 

Pay attention to the people who drain your energy.

These people have control over you. You give them the power to make you feel things you don’t necessarily want to feel. 

Mental strength means you are in such a good place mentally, that nobody can rile you up.

You’ve never seen someone successful start a fight. They’re out there enjoying life and all their success. 

The more people have control over your emotions, the less you own yourself. 

This is why so many people are miserable; their emotions are regulated by others.

This brings us to self-value:

12

You don’t seek external validation; you know who you are

If your happiness depends on other people’s validation, you will forever crave it, and when you don’t receive it, it will eat away at you. 

It traps you in a cage where the only light you get is when you dance to their demands. 

The same is true with emotions; you no longer belong to yourself.

A sign you’re mentally strong is knowing who you are and, more importantly, knowing who you’re not. 

You don’t need to pretend. You don’t need to put on a face. 

As it stands, you can stop acting, and whoever’s left around you is the real one. 

Do you know how many people go out of their house putting on a mask and acting like someone they’re not for the entire day? 

You probably know someone like that, where only once in a blue moon you catch a glimpse of who they really are. 

As humans, we’re so scared of rejection that we keep the act up as long as we can because if the act gets rejected, we feel okay because that’s not really us, but if we were to reveal to the world who we really are and that gets rejected, it feels like game over. But it’s not.

As Miles Davis put it, it will take you a long time to learn to play like yourself!

13

You don’t get anxious; you get focused

When life gets complicated, and it will, your body will tense up. 

For some people, this is an overwhelming experience, they freeze, they get anxious, and they can’t sleep at night, frightened by the potential outcome. 

If things start going down, most people will break down with it. 

Mentally strong people strap themselves in and get to work. 

The relationship between effort and outcome is inversely proportional. The worse it gets, the more you work, and you don’t stop until things are returned to a state of predictable balance. 

As we’ve spent more and more time with self-made high-net-worth individuals, the more we realize just how common this is among them and just how uncommon it is for regular folks. 

Most people are only driven and motivated when things are going well. 

Successful people reframe “going well” as the default, and they mostly hunker down when that default is threatened.

14

You are comfortable being alone

The more success you have, the more private you become. 

You end up vibing alone or surrounded by very few people.

Your circle diminishes in size but massively improves in value. Being alone no longer scares you as much as it does everyone else.

You prefer growth in silence because being around so many people who are just trying to take is depleting your energy. 

This is especially true in times of hardship. A sinking ship can save no one. 

So if you find yourself in this position, don’t bring other people onto your ship…. unless they’re good at fixing ships. 

This is also true of age alone:

 

15

You are able to zoom out and look at reality objectively

The older we get, the more we are able to appreciate time and larger time horizons. 

When we were starting out, everything had to happen fast. 

We would pedal as fast as we could, and it gets you started, but you don’t get that far. 

You don’t really understand leverage and compounding until you have enough base to afford leverage or to see compounding at work. 

The secret to long-term success is to set up your life in such a way that your efforts perpetually compound, and then make sure that compounding doesn’t get interrupted unnecessarily.

Once you understand how true leverage and compounding work, you never hurry; your time horizons change.

Your focus shifts from shotgunning the target to strategic decision-making, because one smart decision 100Xs impact, and the game changes to figuring out what kind of leverage you should use next.

Then it boils down to your ability to zoom out and look at the puzzle pieces honestly and objectively. 

Not as you wish they were, but as they actually are. 

You need to see the ingredients clearly and assess what you can make out of all of them, or figure out what’s missing. 

Zoom out -> Look at reality -> Make something with what you have -> Repeat until you get what you want.

Mental strength is the only way out because when you zoom out, you might not like what you see or realize it’s not enough, and that’s where a decision is made: you either build something out of what you have or live the rest of your life complaining that you don’t have enough. 

These are the 15 signs you’re mentally strong! How many of them can you say are your own?