Before Pursuing a Woman You Should Be Aware Of What She Wants. Here’s What a Woman in Her 40’s Wants in a Man.
Hello Aluxers! As many say, 40 is the new 30. Women affirm they’ve never felt better and more confident than in their 4th decade. If you happen to be interested in such an amazing person, here are 15 rules of thumb you’ll want to consider.
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Know Who You Are Dating
Every woman loves a sincere compliment. She puts effort into looking good and being fit, so go ahead and recognize that. Be careful though! She knows her worth because she has earned it through experience. The difficulties she had to overcome have made her who she is and she’s proud of that. So do not treat her as a 20- or 30-year-old girl! Be mindful of her maturity.
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No Game-Players
If you’re a man in your 40’s and still in the mood for messing around, maybe it’s time to get your priorities sorted! A 40-year-old woman has no time for playing games. She knows what she wants and if you’re not in it body and soul, you’re just wasting her time.
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Soul Quality
Now, we won’t ask you to go read Plato and the great philosophers, although you might find something interesting there! Still you’ll want to level up your conversation when speaking to a 40-year-old woman. Her eyes may have been caught by that nice suit you’re wearing or your dazzling smile, but it’ll be your sensitivity, your compassion and your human values that will win her over.
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Humour Is Sexy
Let’s be honest: looks matter. They’re our calling card and what catches the eye in the first place. Women in their 40’s have eyes too and they do enjoy a good-looking man. Combine beauty with a healthy sense of humour, though, and your chances of success will skyrocket. Humour requires a sharp understanding of the world around you. Think about it: what’s sexier than James Bond’s sassy smile?!
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Ditch the Macho
A 40-year-old woman just wants a man who is willing to meet her where she is. She doesn’t need a knight with the shining armour. She has built herself over the years and doesn’t need saving. What she needs is a partner, someone who can stand beside her and conquer the world with her. For a little extra insight, check our video:
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Mutual Respect
This is pretty straight forward and, truth be told, it should be basics in any relationship and at every age. When a woman is in her 40’s she has learned to respect others while at the same time staying true to herself. She looks for the same in a partner. Feeling respected means also feeling safe and allows to truly open up and make the relationship truly meaningful.
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Self-Awareness
Julia Roberts summarized this point quite perfectly: “Women, you are not rehabilitation centres for badly raised men. It’s not your job to fix them, change them, parent or raise them. You want a partner not a project”. If you want to date a 40-year-old woman, know yourself. Be conscious of your boundaries, your strengths and weaknesses, and put it all on the table. You’ll get nothing but support and will be repaid with the same coin.
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Walk the Talk
If in their 20’s and even 30’s, women might melt at sweet words whispered in a ear, at 40 a woman knows very well that words are meaningless if not followed by action. Reliability is paramount for a woman, a trait strictly bound with our next point.
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Romance 24/7
Reliability goes hand in hand with commitment. All important things require effort and this is even more true within a relationship. A 40-year-old woman values romantic gestures like flowers and chocolate only when they are the icing on the cake. What she looks for is attention to the everyday details. So, instead of buying her 100 roses, turn off your phone and ask her how her day was, give her your undivided attention and be truly present.
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Emotional Maturity
It’s not always easy for either men or women to talk about our feelings. Sometimes, they’re too painful to put in words. Sometimes we just need a bit of practice to let them out. What is fundamental for a woman in her 40’s is that a man at least recognizes his feelings, gives them a name. Children cry without being able to identify what’s making them cry. It might be anger, fear or hunger.
They’re reaction will be pretty much the same every time. A man should be able to understand the difference between anger and frustration, and handle them appropriately. If you’re still in your childhood tantrum’s phase, thanks but no thanks!
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Grown Ups Only
Life is hard. Everybody is busy and we seem to have less and less time at our disposal. This is true especially for a woman in her 40’s who has to juggle a ton of responsibilities. What she needs is a partner who is responsible for himself, who does his part into the couple’s equation. She has no interest to play nurse! Helpless and needy? Stay away!
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A Plan
Women love men who have a plan for their future and don’t just mess around with their lives. There is nothing more frustrating than indecisiveness. You know those people who always let others decide? Who answer any question with a flabby: “I don’t know … Whatever you want”? Well, that’s a sure way to push away a woman in her 40’s! Take control of your life before you go for a 40-year-old woman. Know what you want and plan steps to achieve it.
13
Financial Security
Many 40-year-old women nowadays are financially independent. According to a 2019 statistic, around 37% of working women in Europe hold managerial roles. A 40-year-old woman does not need a partner to support her financially. This said, she is no social subsidy either! Gender equality here is essential.
A woman in her 40’s is looking for a partner who knows what he is doing with his money and is not afraid of a woman with the same kind of knowledge.
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No Couch Potatoes
Women in their 40s are no grannies! On the contrary! They are at the top of their vital momentum. This is the time when many of them truly take their health seriously, so get into nutrition and fitness straight away! If you spend your time on the sofa watching tv, she might literally run into someone more interesting while working out at the park!
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Curiosity
Although having piled up her fair share of experiences, a woman in her 40’s has definitely not stopped learning yet. She knows that she doesn’t know and is therefore always asking questions to enrich her knowledge. She looks for a partner who shares her curiosity and who is willing to question himself. Self-awareness: yes! Blind self-centeredness and the presumption of having the absolute truth in your pocket: NO!
Question:
Speaking of curiosity, we’d love to know your thoughts about this topic! What do you think a woman in her 40’s looks for in a partner? Leave us a comment here below.
