Some of you may not actually be as cool as you believe. These are the signs you need to look out for!
Even though some of you may believe you’re cool, the signs say you’re not. Make sure you read through to the end and if you identify with any of these signs, you might want to change your attitude.
Here are 15 subtle signs you’re NOT cool!
Don’t worry if you don’t feel like reading, you can enjoy the video below or watch the video on YouTube:
1
You brag about how cool you are
It’s pretty obvious on this one.
Being cool is about the subtle perception of coolness. Once you demand it, it goes away.
Coolness is not about telling everyone how cool you are, but showing them how cool you can make them feel.
The harder you try, the less cool you are.
2
You act famous but you lack the thing worthy of fame
Yeah… your 12,000 fake Instagram followers disagree with you.
Even if they were real, what is the cool thing about you that’s worthy of admiration?
Car crashes attract the most attention from pedestrians, so don’t get confused.
Fame is not a validator of value!
Celebrity is not a validator of value!
What you really want is a solid reputation.
Every door opens to a man with a good reputation!
3
When the online world doesn’t reflect the real world
Fake people are intrinsically not cool.
Nothing that doesn’t hold up to the advertisement is ever cool—so be like a fridge; the interior’s contents are way more important than the exterior.
We’ve gotten so used to spending time online that people are confusing it with real life.
That’s the metaverse.
You’re trying to portray something you’re not. The problem is, you’re creating this persona that you now have to live up to.
Moreover, you can’t afford this imaginary lifestyle so when people meet you in real life, you’re nothing but a disappointment.
This is a sign you’re definitely not cool.
4
When you talk about how many sexual partners you’ve had
Why do some people still act like they’re in high school?
We’re all happy for you and want to move on with the discussion, so unless we ask follow-up questions, we’re good with the information.
We don’t need visuals or a re-enactment of it at our niece’s bar mitzvah.
Also, at some point, the focus on quantity somehow makes it seem like the quality is low. Because high-quality partners aren’t widely available, so… you might wanna get yourself checked out.
5
When you think being dumb is cool
Because we were bored as a human race at some point, we decided to make stupid people famous so that we could all laugh at them collectively.
All the attention we’ve given them has given them the opportunity to get rich fast off of quick fame.
Once riches entered the mix, some of the jokes went away, and now we have stupid people with a lot of money, and we all know how desirable money is.
True coolness comes from depth, not the kind these ladies are selling.
And we already wrote an article on what makes you cool, so go check it out!
Fortunately, there’s a way you can build up.
Kim Kardashian rose out of the same kind of soil and has managed to make quite some progress since.
Now, it’s up to you guys to figure out if she was able to outgrow her past or if she’s always carrying that with her. Let us know in the comments.
6
You ask people questions instead of googling
It’s the same with people who ask others to do the heavy lifting for them.
The world has answered every question. All you have to do is put it into action.
Some of the highest-paying jobs in the world are just glorified Google searches.
Ask any high-level programmer you know. That’s like 80% of their jobs, and they’re proud of it.
If you need too much handholding, you’re a child. So grow up!
7
Putting other people down and making fun at their expense
Bullying has never been cool, and it never will be cool.
If you’re so smart and cool, why can’t you be funny without putting other people down?
If we take away that single element, are you still funny? What’s left of the person you really are?
Instead of investing time there, focus on building charisma and humor in a way where everybody’s in on the joke.
8
When you’re lazy and uncreative
You’ve seen people who are just slobs.
- They never do anything
- They don’t have a passion
- They don’t have talent
Nothing.
Laziness is not only unattractive, but it’s damaging to the people around you.
Spend too much time around people who are absolutely lazy, and now you think 20% of your effort is still enough because they’ve readjusted your threshold so low.
You only realize their impact once you zoom out because this is a subtle sign you’re not cool!
That’s why the smartest kid in the dumb class never makes the leap in life, they’ve been anchored too much.
Speaking of smarts:
9
You brag about your IQ
- If you mention your IQ in public, you’re automatically not cool.
- If you’re so smart, why are you arguing instead of solving the problem at hand?
- If you’re so smart, how come you haven’t figured out your finances?
- If you’re so smart, why haven’t you figured out what makes you happy?
- If you’re so smart, why are you surrounded by – in your words – dumb people?
Birds of a feather flock together, my friend and you are out there in a crowd.
Speaking of know-it-alls:
10
When you think you’ve got all the answers
People who aren’t able to change their position on things based on new information are totally not cool.
You care more about being right than you care about growth, and that sucks for both you and the people talking to you.
The problem with thinking you know everything is that it limits your ability to expand.
What if there was an app out there where the most interesting people in the world—the ones who’ve lived interesting lives—shared the most valuable and practical things they’ve learned with you?
It would be amazing, wouldn’t it?
Well, we built that app and it’s called the Alux app!
It’s one of the most fascinating products to ever be created, and we’re proud that it’s our baby.
Go ahead and try it. It’s free to download and test-run with a free trial.
But hey, some of you don’t need growth, right?
Who needs an app specifically designed to elevate the key aspects of your life when you already know everything there is to know about life?
Am I right? Don’t be that person. Get the app and watch it help you make real progress.
11
You look out of place
We get it.
Everyone has their own personal style, but sometimes it’s about showing the other person that you’ve actually made an effort.
So don’t wear jean shorts to your cousin’s wedding.
It’s the same with the guys who try too hard, and it always backfires.
There’s an elegance to understanding life, where you are, and the expectations of what’s about to happen.
If we’re honest, forget leisurewear, it might be time to bring back the suit for the gentlemen.
12
You use excessive foul language when you don’t have to
Swear words are there to add an exclamation point to the conversation.
But if all you do is add exclamations after 2-3 words, it’s getting hard to take you seriously.
It also showcases your inability to communicate effectively.
Your arguments don’t read as being well put together. And because you lack eloquence in your speech, you fill them with swear words.
At some point, it’s almost ridiculous to watch someone talk that way.
It’s the same with people who say the word LIKE a lot, it’s a clear sign you’re not cool!
13
Being so competitive, nobody has fun playing with you
This is about those people who miss the forest because of the trees.
You forget what the purpose of the game is.
By winning the game at the expense of everyone having fun, you actually lost the bigger social game that was being played.
The goal of games is for people to want to play with you again.
For them to have fun playing.
Competition is good as it brings out the best in people, but be careful not to be competitive when competition isn’t the purpose.
If people have fun playing with you, they will relate to you, and they will invite you to play with them and others.
Hypercompetitive people are always lonely.
They think of themselves as lone wolves when they’re actually just bad team players.
14
When you don’t know when to shut up
There are some key moments in time when shutting up leads to dramatically better outcomes for yourself in life.
And no, we’re not talking about the obvious ones, like snitching on yourself to the cops.
Sometimes it’s about not hurting someone with your words because you still value the relationship.
It’s the same as with the competitive aspect.
Some people lose relationships because they care more about being right than keeping the relationship alive, and that’s a clear sign they’re not cool.
15
Young people think you’re not cool
In the words of canceled and uncanceled rapper Ye: Listen to the kids, bro!
Basically, coolness is something every generation judges differently.
If the new ones give you the stamp of approval, you’ve transcended your peers.
If you look at young people and simply don’t understand what’s happening, we’re sorry to say this, but you might be too old and too uncool to get it.
And because you’ve made it this far, we saved a secret bonus for the end!
Bonus
Being cool means being in control of your life
Have you noticed how some people are like James Bond?
Suave, well put together, always ready, and seem like they have everything under control?
That’s what, as an individual, you should aspire to.
The closer you get to that, the fewer regrets you will have in your life.
Regrets are the result of unfulfilled outcomes due to a lack of action!
Meaning the outcome would’ve been different if you just acted instead of letting it pass you by.
The goal is to go through life proud of the life you lived, and the only way to do that is on your terms. And that my friend will always be cool
These are the signs that definitely show you’re not cool. And now that you know, be honest: How many of these did you identify with?
